How To Be More Confident hello, I’m an international social etiquette consultant. Today’s topic How To Be More Confident is something that was highly requested by a lot of you asking me to write a post about how to build up the confidence level. So this post is dedicated to those that have requested it, but also to everyone interested in how to become even more confident.
When we look at someone who seems to be confident to us, we cannot necessarily pinpoint one thing that we think makes them look confident. Is it the way they talk? Is it the way they stand, or is it the way they look that makes them look confident? Usually, when asked about a person, do you think they’re confident? You’d say yes or no based on your overall general impression, based on all three elements that I’ll be talking about very shortly.
The truth is there is no one thing that makes a person look confident and How To Be More Confident. It’s the amalgam of all three elements your body, your mind, as well as your looks that coherently sent the message that you are a confident person for How To Be More Confident. Though some of us are born more confident than others because of various reasons our upbringing, the way our parents treated us, the way the society or the school or people around us treated us.
That is true that we are influenced very much by our environment and therefore our confidence levels can be different when we reach adulthood. But the good news is that we can train, that we can build up our confidence level for How To Be More Confident.
It just takes some more practice and knowledge on what to work on. So in today’s post, I’ll look at three elements individually in order to help you boost your confidence level and How To Be More Confident.
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How To Be More Confident Looks Matter: Like What You See
First things first for How To Be More Confident are the looks. I know that we have a lot of debate about whether we should judge a book by its cover or maybe that it’s an old archaic understanding. But the truth is, the first impression that anyone makes on us is based on the 7 seconds.
And usually, that impression is mainly majorly influenced by the way they look. So unfortunately for many of you that would like to not agree with this point, it is human nature that we judge the book by its cover. But I would like to do a different kind of message here. I want you to look the way you like for How To Be More Confident. I want to emphasize the word you like and not like the other people who would like to see you.
When you like what you see in the mirror, when you look in your own reflection and like what you see, your confidence level immediately goes up. I want to illustrate this point using the example of my daughter. She’s only six years old, but when she gets to pick up her outfit early in the morning when going to school when she loves the outfit, she just looks at herself in the mirror with so much admiration.
And when she walks out of the door that day, she is so confident. On the other hand, when I make her wear something for a certain occasion because that’s a dress code or maybe because I think she’s going to look beautiful in it and I think subjectively speaking, she does look beautiful in that outfit, but she herself doesn’t perceive it that way.
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She doesn’t like it for some reason, then her confidence level is very much affected by it. She will not admire herself in the mirror, regardless of what other people around her say or feel or compliment her look. This is important even using the example of a small child as young as a six-year-old. When a person likes their own reflection in the mirror and that decision is made only by you. If you like what you see in the mirror, your confidence level sure will be up for How To Be More Confident.
Try this test for yourself at home for How To Be More Confident. If this is daytime and you’re reading this post, you’re still in your PJs, your hair is all up. You’re not feeling very much confident in that outfit. Just go take a shower quickly, change to a nice pair of jeans, a nice blouse or white t-shirt, put your hair down or maybe do a nice bun, do a little bit of makeup, add some perfume if you would like.
And then just go up to the nerve and take a look at yourself and tell me in the comment section down below what happened to your confidence level, Once you did that for How To Be More Confident.
You will see that in less than 20 to 30 minutes your confidence level went up from zero up to 100. I assure you of How To Be More Confident.
Train Your Body
Now that we have mastered and understood that looks play a huge role in building up our confidence and the looks that matter to you that you like to see in yourself, the next thing we will be working on is our body. Working on the body takes a little bit more time than adjusting your look, but it’s also very much doable and very much learnable. There are some universal body language postures that translate into confidence for How To Be More Confident.
- Open Body Postures
Number one for How To Be More Confident is to have an open body posture. It means no slouching, no crossing of your arms. So your body should not be obstructed by anything. Your body should be open and visible to the person who is interacting with you.
- Power Stance
Number two for How To Be More Confident is taking a power pause that is slightly putting your feet apart for men. That would be more than for women, but basically, what it means is the more physical space you occupy, the more confident you feel internal and the more confident people perceive you. Again, this doesn’t mean that you have to take it to an extreme. Stretching your legs way too apart will not make you look confident at all. Decency and modesty in everything that you do.
- Eye Contact
Number three for How To Be More Confident is maintaining eye contact is super important. It’s important to look in people’s eyes. The more you’re able to maintain eye contact, the more people perceive you to be confident in yourself.
These are useful tips to know in order to look more competent and trustworthy as a negotiator and as a speaker.
- Smile More Often
Number four for How To Be More Confident is that’s a universal sign of confidence and amicability is a smile. Make sure that you smile more often. The more you’re able to smile at people, the more they will feel like you are confident in yourself. You are approachable, you feel confident in yourself that you let other people come closer to you.
- Mind Your Hands
Number five for How To Be More Confident is to pay attention to your hands. Your hands will reveal how you truly feel even without saying a word. If you are cracking your knuckles, if you’re biting your nails, if you’re playing with your ring, it shows that you are not confident. If you’re a lady, a small back or a clutch can come in handy to occupy your hands.
You could just hold your clutch or your bag and therefore occupy your hands. If you’re out and about socializing and perhaps at a networking event, what you could do is you could pick a glass of something and place it in your left hand. Therefore occupy your hand and feel a little bit more comfortable and competent.
Educate Your Mind
Now coming to the last third element for today’s post for How To Be More Confident, and that is your mind. If we’re looking at the way that I’ve been mentioning every single element, first we start with the look, then we’ll look at our body, which is going to take a little bit more time preparing and the final is the mind for How To Be More Confident.
It will take a little bit even more time, but it’s also doable. What I mean by the mind is actually your knowledge of things. After graduating from school, it’s important to keep learning and stay up-to-date on the latest changes in your field. It’s also important to keep learning about new risks and how to manage them for How To Be More Confident.
That’s probably why I actually wrote this post is I wanted to talk about things, topics that could be helpful for young adults and people after school in developing their personality and when embarking on a journey of self-development, things that they would need to know in order to be better prepared for life and How To Be More Confident.
The truth is, the more things you’re aware of, the more confident and comfortable you feel in conversation with others. Self-education is a lifelong practice. Read the best-seller books, and stay on top of the world news. Learn about things that your friends, community, university, and society talk about, so you’re able also to contribute to the discussion.
When you have no knowledge of what people are talking about, you naturally feel withdrawn from the conversation because you feel like you have nothing to say.
And in order to have something to say, you need to be knowledgeable about all the things happening. Just a little bit of here and there is good to be able to maintain a small talk, to be able to have the conversation going on. To illustrate this point, I want to give you an example from my life.
When I was in fifth and 6th grade, I was attending this art class and in this art class, my classmates were talking about a new book that I’d never heard about and the further duration of an hour of the class. They kept on talking and discussing the book. I felt insecure, I felt uncomfortable, to say the least. I was not able to say anything in this conversation because I had no clue what they were talking about.
I remember that feeling inside of me of not being able to contribute in any way and I never wanted to feel the same way again. And this was a mental note to my younger self. And immediately when going home, I asked my mom to purchase the book. And actually, I believe that a lot of you from my generation probably know this was the book that was being discussed was Harry Potter and Philosopher’s Stone. It has just arrived in Azerbaijan and was only available in certain very few bookstores.
And so I asked my mom to get me one. She spent the whole evening searching for the book, eventually found one, and brought home. I was ecstatic, to say the least. I started reading the book. Long story short, for the next subsequent few years all we could talk about was Harry Potter and I was always a part of the discussion.
Sometimes we’re able to find communities that are doing things that we already love. So we join this community of people and feel like we can join the discussion, we can contribute. But other times we need to explore new fields of interest, perhaps that we’re outside of the spectrum of our interests in order to be able to grow and in order to be able to contribute to more things. This is not about blending in in any way. This doesn’t mean that you have to give up your own interests for sake of the interests of the people.
It just means that in addition to your own interests, you start developing or start exploring new possibilities, new knowledge, and new fields of interest for yourself and therefore growing as an individual. And that’s part of building up your confidence level. The more knowledge you have about things around you and around the world, the more confident you’re going to feel in yourself and be able to join discussions and join communities.
This means you start reading more books, you start listening to more podcasts, and you start learning about things you never wanted to learn about. Just having a little bit of knowledge will never hurt.
So to sum up today’s post, it’s not about just how you look, it’s not about just how you walk or talk. It’s not just about what you have to say. But it’s an amalgam of all three elements that make you be confident and look confident. Thank you so much for reading this post until the very end.
